Photo by JoshuaAaron Photography
There are a plethora of decisions faced when planning a wedding; from the venue, to the color themes, the flowers, etc. Not to belittle any of these decisions (after all, they keep us in business), it just that when it’s all said and done, the day is about the promises made between two people.
We often hear that one of the most difficult decisions is deciding whether or not to write your own vows. They are so personal and so important and couples often default to tradition – whether or not it’s what they truly want. To help you, we’ve put together some pro’s and con’s and a few ideas to spark ideas for the other words before “I do.”
“I, [name], take you [name], to be my lawfully wedded [husband/wife], to have and to hold from this day forward; for better or for worse; for richer, for poorer; in sickness and in health; to love and to cherish from this day forward until death do us part.”
There is something special about saying the same vows that so many have said before you. These lines cover the bases and there is a richness to them that cuts you straight to the heart. Plus, there are other ways to personalize your ceremony while sticking with these classic words.
There is something hopelessly romantic about writing your own vows, however, there is a lot of fear that bubbles up the moment a couple decides to write their own vows. What if they’re too cheesy, or too mushy, or too cold? What if you’re not able to really express how each other feels or can’t think of the right words to use?!
Tell us what you think! Did you and your spouse recite traditional vows or did you write your own, and why? If you went the custom route, what did you say and where did you find your inspiration?